Stop worrying about the “should’s”.
Weddings are traditional in nature and you will probably come across a lot of “You should do this” and “You should do that” conversations somewhere along the way. Although weddings have been around for centuries and centuries on end, same sex weddings have not. This is a fairly new concept to work with and not the type of thing that people in general have a lot of experience with when it all comes down to it. This is why you really shouldn’t allow yourself to be trapped in all of the strictures of tradition. Gay weddings are anything but traditional, after all. The more you take that into account, the better you will be in planning your wedding out the right way at the end of the day. The beauty in all of this is that you aren’t restricted by these so called traditions because of the fact that they don’t really apply to you in the first place. You can be as free and as creative and you would like to be and people won’t judge you for it. And even if they do, you really should think too much into it. The fact remains that this is mainly your wedding. You get to call the shots. You get to call the decisions. You get to decide on what you would like to go for and what you would like to opt out of at the end of the day. Get a gay wedding photographer who can walk you through the proceedings of the day and for one who has been there before.
Be creative with your wedding party.
You don’t need a maid of honor or a best man if it is not the type of thing that applies to you. You can be as different as you would like to be. Don’t be afraid to explore the possibility of switching roles or of opting for a totally different concept. What is different may seem strange to some but it can come off as refreshing and wonderful to most and this is something that you should try to go ahead and capitalize on when it all comes down to it. You can have your older members of the family as flower girls, or have a groom shower instead of a bridal one. It can be pretty fun and exciting when you are venturing out into the unknown and when you are one of the first few ones who will be doing it.
Think out the outfits early.
Is someone going to wear a dress or are both of you wearing a dress? Or is it going to be a tux? Try to see if you will be able to get the two cents of your gay wedding photographer about this so that you can work things out ahead of time and so that you have less things to worry about should the time come.
Pre parties don’t have to be restrictive. There are no set rules on a stag or bachelorette party. You can be as inclusive as you would like to be and hold one party instead of 2 separate ones. Anything goes, really.